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Asked on May 1, 2016 3:04 pm
Some parents deny children their right to education which later affects the child starting to regret why he/she can not read…
(Henry (Uganda) at May 5, 2016 11:47 am)
Henry have you tried to report some of those parents because most of them are very ignorant about value for education
(David (Uganda) at May 5, 2016 11:49 am)
No David. I have never reported. I fear. do you think I should report them? what if they disown me?
(Henry (uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:26 am)
I think if a parent hasn’t been educated themselves, then maybe they don’t understand the value of education and they need to be helped to understand why it is so important for their children to get an education.
(Amy at May 12, 2016 11:34 am)
If parents are used to sending children to buy alcohol or cigarettes this may give a bad picture to the child in a way that the child may also start drinking which may affect his life and future
(Pius (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:35 am)
When parents are supportive and considerate of the children’s choice, they can really help build a good future. I know not every parents can give their children what they want or need but to have encouragement, love and support from parents is more important than ever. As a child to know that my parents care and are trying their best to provide and support me is a motivation for me to try my hardest with every opprtounity I get. Regardless of the parents situation, as a child I need to know that I’m valued and important to them.
(Dee at May 12, 2016 11:38 am)
you become a thief in future if you are not nurtured well from childhood.
(Henry (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:53 am)
you can have many good friends if parents make you to grow well
(Henry (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:57 am)
Henry I think this is a lovely point. That a parents role helps you decide and shape the friends that you make. Supportive friends? The friends you make can impact choices you make and has an impact on your future. I never really thought about this before…
(Leela at May 12, 2016 12:04 pm)
Parents must be example for the children
(Diana The Netherlands at May 12, 2016 12:05 pm)
when some parents tell the children to walk at night to buy for them alcohol,the children can be influenced to talk alcohol that can affect their future
(Henry (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:05 pm)
I don’t think that you automatically become a thief if you are not well nurtured from childhood. It is also about individual choice.
(Amy at May 12, 2016 12:10 pm)
Parents must be good example for their children to follow
(Diana The Netherlands at May 12, 2016 12:10 pm)
when children want to achieve their dreams, they must receive good support from their parents right from childhood.
(Henry (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:16 pm)
Train a child on the way he should behave well from childhood, so that when they grow up they will become responsible citizens.
(Alfred from Uganda at May 12, 2016 12:36 pm)
Some parents think that setting up a bar around home may help to train the children in business skills, and yet this can make the child get addicted to drinking.
(Edrine (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:37 pm)
Due to poor child upbringing, some children have gotten into peer pressure and because of this some children do not respect their parents anymore and some of them leave home and decide to become independent.
(Alfred from Uganda at May 12, 2016 12:43 pm)
I don’t know why some parents end up forcing their children into some life difficult conditions like forcing them into marriage
(Ruth(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:44 pm)
parents who play their role and have ample time to talk to their children will instill good discipline to their childrenand they wont become a problem to the community in the future.
(Alfred from Uganda at May 12, 2016 12:49 pm)
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Some parents bring up their children without any kind of punishment and this makes the children to grow up with bad characters like going for clubbing, early sex leading to early pregnancy, since they grew up knowing that they can not be punished at home for their bad acts which destroy their future.
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Posted by Edrine (Uganda)
Answered on May 12, 2016 12:48 pm
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Where two elephants fight it’s the grass that suffers – so in this case when two parents fight it is the child who suffers.
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Posted by Tiff (Uganda)
Answered on May 12, 2016 12:46 pm
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Some parents try to encourage their children to go to government schools because they can not afford private schools and at the same time the child does not get meals at school, and this affects the child’s performance and the future at large.
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Posted by Edrine (Uganda)
Answered on May 12, 2016 12:45 pm
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Some parents go and work in distant places, they trust their relatives with their children, but when they send money or the child to go to school, the money is not put into the right use and this makes the child to miss school.
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Posted by Edrine (Uganda)
Answered on May 12, 2016 12:41 pm
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If a parent is failing in being a good role model what can we do to help them to improve for the future? Lets not give up on the parents friends.
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Posted by Isaac (Kenya)
Answered on May 12, 2016 12:06 pm
Probably I can involve in some laws concerning children’s rights such that I get parental love.
(Tiff (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:44 pm)
I think it depends what is stopping them from being a good role model. For example, a lot of parents would love to send their children to school but just can’t afford it. So then they need support to find a job or start a business.
(Amy at May 12, 2016 12:52 pm)
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Is lack of education a vicious cycle? If a parent is uneducated, will it affect a child’s education? What do you think?
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Posted by Helen
Answered on May 12, 2016 11:56 am
Of course if you are not educated yourself it is hard to see it having a purpose for your child. You just want them to help you get money to survive.
(Ivan (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:04 pm)
I think this is often the case as the parent doesn’t understand the value of education if they have not been educated themselves.
(Amy at May 12, 2016 12:08 pm)
Not really. Many children with parents who are in educated have managed to go to school and succeeded. It is all about the parent understanding the importance of education that they can educate their children. If am to ask you hellen. Who taught our great grand parents about the use of education? We know they were not educated but they managed to embrace the idea of education.
(Sam, Uganda at May 12, 2016 12:10 pm)
I think that whilst it can affect a child’s education, I think other factors come into play too – such as environment, money, education opportunities (types of schools, extra activities).
(Emma at May 12, 2016 12:11 pm)
Yea, a uneducated parent might affect a child’s education because he or she might think that education is valueless just because she or he is ignorant about education’ dignity and values.
(Tiff (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:38 pm)
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Do you not think that actually if you lose the parents you might grow even stronger from learning to survive without them?
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Posted by Sarah (UK)
Answered on May 12, 2016 11:50 am
It depends on the alternative care that you get. If you have other supportive adults around you I think this is possible.
(Amy at May 12, 2016 11:52 am)
i can grow stronger because i God is there for always in all cirmstances
(Tiff (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:28 pm)
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Parents are the one to give advice to their children about what and how to follow in their way of life. without the parents having the knowledge to guide their children, they will always end up in trouble
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Posted by Henry (uganda)
Answered on May 12, 2016 11:42 am
Is there no responsibility for the child themselves in their actions? I think the parents are not the only influences they have in this world
(Gemma (UK) at May 12, 2016 11:46 am)
I agree with the fact that parents are not the only influences in this world. However, parents are not perfect, since they are also human beings who can make mistakes. It is for this reason that I think giving parents support and guidance on how to raise their children can be of great help.
(Helena at May 12, 2016 11:55 am)
Is it more about having a caregiver, guardian in the child’s life that is demonstrating positive life choices and helping to show the impact of those choices?
(Leela at May 12, 2016 12:07 pm)
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Parents are the greatest role model a child has. Their actions teach children how to behave as they go through life, and the impact of each parent’s actions should never be underestimated. They lead by example in everything they do. It’s a big responsibility that some parents can take too lightly.
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Posted by Helen
Answered on May 12, 2016 11:39 am
Many parents expect their children to do right when they are doing wrong. they take alcohol and other drugs everyday and when their children start taking drugs, they blame them not knowing that the children coped from them. it is the old bird which teaches the young ones to fly
(Yasin (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:49 am)
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Hi everyone! Bummit hitchhike here posting from the University of Sheffield in the UK. For most of us here, our parents have always played a positive role in our future prospects. When contemplating this question we considered how difficult it would have been without our parents supporting us throughout our education. Especially when we were younger, our parents pushed us to complete our school work to a high standard and highlighted the impact this would have on our futures. The scientists amongst the Bummit group have pointed out that there is strong scientific evidence which suggests that children who do not have a secure attachment with their parents are more likely to have mental health issues and difficulties with forming relationships with other people. Therefore we believe the role of the parents goes well beyond education (although this is a vital aspect).
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Posted by Bummit Hitchhike Sheffield
Answered on May 12, 2016 11:20 am
What a great answer – its true parents give you more than an education. They show you how to love. If you don’t get a good example of love then you will pass on that lack of caring again and again to your future children.
(Ivan (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:30 am)
But why is it that some children have bad behaviors even when parents are there?
(Yasin(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:56 am)
this is very true. I would always think that marriage is full of problems if i grew up seeing my parents quarreling and fighting everyday. therefore I would also fear to enter into a relationship as I would imagine how disturbing and hurting relationships are
(Yasin (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:56 am)
Have you never seen some other examples of good relationships Yasin that might inspire you that you could still make it different when you are older? Don’t give up man
(Ivan (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:01 pm)
Of course there are other influences to children showing bad behaviour. Some children may have supportive parents who guide them in the right way but may also have certain genetic personality traits which make them more likely to present with bad behaviours. Also the influence of getting into the wrong peer groups is a factor to why a child may show bad behaviours, as peers of the same age can be very influential
(bummit hitchhike! UK at May 12, 2016 12:47 pm)
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Posted by Children in Uganda
Answered on May 12, 2016 11:13 am
If our parents fail to give us good guidance in our life we may end up getting bad peer friends who may not give us good guidance which children may end up not having a good future because of the bad friends who mislead us and yet if our parents do it effectively this may help us as children
(Paul(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:59 am)
Parents’ relationship and communication affect in a way that some parents are not open to their children and they fear to relate very well with the children which could help in understanding who their children are
(Brian(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:40 pm)
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Hi we are here online in Uganda and very ready to debate this topic live with the world – are you ready to join us?
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Posted by Children in Uganda
Answered on May 12, 2016 11:01 am
I am ready
(Amy at May 12, 2016 11:07 am)
Great hi Amy – what do you think of our topic?
(Children in Uganda at May 12, 2016 11:12 am)
it is a good a topic because it helps us to understand our parents role…
(Isam (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:42 am)
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Children grow effectively with parents who are there for them. They get the right sense of responsibility transferred to the child and even the child grows up to be responsible to their own children and a role model in the community.
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Posted by Mike (Uganda)
Answered on May 12, 2016 10:55 am
I agree with you. But what if a child’s parents die, do you think they should grow up irresponsible?
(Sam (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:12 am)
What about foster parents – or other relatives who can take up the role of parenting? I think they can also provide that love and support for a child to grow up well.
(Nicola (UK) at May 12, 2016 11:17 am)
That is good if they really have the love and care for the child
(Solomon(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:45 am)
I agree – other family members or guardians can step into the role of parent for a child. What matters is the amount of care and love they are able to provide.
(Helen at May 12, 2016 11:47 am)
But depends on the parents behavior
(Robert(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:49 am)
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I agree that parents have a really important role to play in the future of their children. There has been some comments on here about parents not showing enough interest in their children, and then being disappointed if their child does not succeed. But what about if the parents are too pushy and make their children do lots of work and attend extra lessons at school and not let them play. How do you think this may affect their future prospects?
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Posted by Aimee (UK)
Answered on May 12, 2016 10:28 am
As people, we know how leisure and play are important to the children’s life. Aimee, I think you and me who know how important it is should try to teach others whenever there is an opportunity. start with your friends. how do you think about that?
(sa at May 12, 2016 11:15 am)
Who could children get help from in helping their parents understand the importance of play and spending time with friends?
(Leela at May 12, 2016 12:10 pm)
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Some parents are kind of useless – so for some cases I think it is better the child doesn’t grow with the parent but instead grows with others who can be better role models. If the parents are abusive how are they helping the child?
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Posted by Jessica (America)
Answered on May 12, 2016 9:58 am
But it is also important to think about how the parents have been brought up. They would have learnt from their parents too so if they were not brought up well then maybe they need support as parents too?
(Amy at May 12, 2016 11:13 am)
I think this is true Jessica. some parents are really useless and they are have to be put in prison to learn that they should care for the children of their own
(Yasin (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:20 am)
I think it is very important to bear in mind that there is still hope when parents have failed to provide the support children need. Children can get help from other adults around them (other relatives such as uncles, outreach workers, teachers…), who can be appropriate role models for them. If children in this situation can find around them another adult that provides the support they need, they will learn how to live a good life and will be able to reach their full potential.
(Helena at May 12, 2016 11:21 am)
If you put the parents into prison will they ever improve? Or you are just separating them from the children?
(Ivan (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:35 am)
I don’t think putting parents in prison would help solve the problem unless they are being abusive. They need support and advice to be able to take better care of their children instead.
(Amy at May 12, 2016 11:43 am)
No to put parent in prison you never improve in life but you separate them and you talk about schooling. you will be still separating it from the child
(Henry (uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:12 pm)
Children need stability and role models to learn from. If the environment is abusive then the best way for the child to thrive will be away from that situation. That’s not to say the parent goes to prison, it’s more that the child is removed from the situation via state or other family.
(Emma at May 12, 2016 12:14 pm)
I guess it is really very good to have parents on you with or without. its because some have no idea of their responsibility but a parent is the most important person you can have in the world…
(Solomon(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:15 pm)
When you grow without your parents you have no direction and no trust in religion and faith among adults
(Pius (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:31 pm)
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I absolutely agree with Nicola, we learn a lot from our parents as we grow up. I do believe that those who act as parents or play parental roles can come in many guises – from other family members, to those who support children in need within SALVE. With support, guidance, direction and feedback; the absence of a role-model can be slowly be addressed if needed.
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Posted by Emma
Answered on May 12, 2016 8:09 am
Good point emma – parents roles could always be taken by many friends including neighbours, school teachers, even older siblings
(Ivan (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:41 am)
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The children’s brains are fragile. Whoever gets the first touch on them makes a great impact. Parents give birth to children and instead of spending time with their children, they live them to the maids, askaris, house girls and house boys. After then, they want their children to be bankers and hold big posts in the job world and if they fail, they always blame the children forgetting that they the parents didn’t give time to their children and the house girls did it. Now whose path did they follow? So parents, spare time for your children, take them to nice places, let them know where you work and even how you struggle. They will always wish to follow the path of that one who loves them. Leave them to the house girls, and they will shape them. Love them and you will have chance to get them follow the path you want them to follow.
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Posted by Sam, Uganda
Answered on May 10, 2016 6:43 am
I really connected with what you said here Sam – I absolutely believe that love, support, patience and kindness will enable children to find their way. Help them to learn and make their own decisions, rather than enforcing our own bias on them.
(Emma at May 12, 2016 8:33 am)
Do you not think that sometimes the house girls could also be good role models? What if they are very loving to the child – could that not be possible?
(Gemma (UK) at May 12, 2016 11:37 am)
Completely agree, too many parents all over the world do this. Housegirls etc can be brilliant role models but parents should think about whether they have the time and ability to care for a child and bond with them before bringing them into this world
(Bummit Hitchhike Sheffield at May 12, 2016 11:50 am)
But if they go ahead to have the child – should they remove your child from you for giving poor care?
(Ivan (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:55 am)
That’s why a strong education system is so important – when children do go to school, they can receive some of this care neglected from the household they live in, as well as seeing strong role models around them.
(Emma at May 12, 2016 12:15 pm)
That is good Sam however some parent just have the fear to sometimes talk to their children and also expose them.
(Solomon(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:21 pm)
Hi Gemma. have you understood the notion that ”we are molded and remolded by those who loved us” It is mostly people who love us that their foot steps we follow. If you’re loved by a house girl, you’re most likely to follow her foot steps. and if loved by your mother or father, you are most likely to do the same. How is that?
(Sam (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:24 pm)
If your parents do not give time to you, and you’re always having time with the house girl, she will be the one to give all instructions to you. so as a child, you will take her instructions as right and they are the ones you will follow. I think parents should give time to their children.
(Henry (uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:28 pm)
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for me i guess parents have helped in a way the decisions that most of us make are of value resulting from them for instance there is no way some one can give a reference about you without knowing your parents… they will always ask “who are your parents, who brought you up??”
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Posted by Solomon (Uganda)
Answered on May 4, 2016 11:46 am
Yes. You are right Solomon. Everyone would like to know who your parents are. so whether you go where or where, they will still be part of your reference.
(Henry (uganda) at May 12, 2016 11:32 am)
This isn’t true in every culture – in my country I don’t think they would ask you who your parents are they would take you as yourself
(Debbie (Aus) at May 12, 2016 11:40 am)
Yes Henry i agree with you but also depends on how you respect yourself and your parents
(Solomon(Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:22 pm)
if you grow with good morals from your parents you can be simple in the society, loved so much by the people in the society. Therefore parents should play a good role in the upbringing of children.
(Henry (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:34 pm)
there is no child who would succeed whithout parents lookinng after him or her well, so parents take on your responsobilities and roles.
(Henry (Uganda) at May 12, 2016 12:42 pm)
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I think we learn a lot from our parents – for example gender roles in the home, how to behave, how to care for others. So if you don’t have parents around it can be harder for you to succeed – though not impossible.
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Posted by Nicola (UK)
Answered on May 4, 2016 11:40 am
Nice one Nicola don’t you think you can also learn and adopt wrong behaviors from our parents
(Solomon (Uganda) at May 5, 2016 11:41 am)
I agree with Nicola however sometimes our parents have failed to do their work
(Brian(Uganda) at May 5, 2016 11:54 am)
Yes, if a right advice is given at the right age and on how to go about it – for example giving a right advice to the child of the right age in that if one of a young age is given a mature advice he may end up practicing it in a wrong time
(Yasin(Uganda) at May 5, 2016 11:59 am)
To me our parents role affect us negatively – for example some children in families grow up when they are not allowed to do any kind of work at home and after the death of their parents, they remain suffering sine their parents did not do anything to help them live that good life
(Mukisa(Uganda) at May 5, 2016 12:03 pm)
Perhaps it is more that you need someone to act as a parent for you even if they aren’t the real parent?
(Nicola (UK) at May 12, 2016 11:39 am)
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