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Asked on June 1, 2017 8:03 am
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I think parents shouldn’t be punished but should be cautioned that what they are doing is wrong and shouldnt do it again, they should be made aware of the risks that they expose their children to when they expose them into early child marriage.
(Ronald-South Africa at June 15, 2017 5:52 am)
Yes they can be sensitized but the law should first handle them with an iron hand and they are charged that is when they learn
(Solo(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 7:07 pm)
They should be punished because they put their children to risk even when they know
(Ivan(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 7:21 pm)
They should be arrested and put into law because they would have mistreated their own children making them suffer at an early age
(Joel(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 7:24 pm)
Generally speaking, prevention is better than cure/punishment. Better education can bring to more responsible parents that do not oblige their children to marry at a young age. I think there should be legal prosecution if parents oblige their children to marry young also because these situations often bring to abuses especially in case of girls. Those parents are unresponsible because every person – and therefore children too – should be able to decide themselves when to marry and should be marry because they are in love.
(Irene at June 17, 2017 8:59 pm)
Well,its not that every early marriage that raises is caused by parent Bt we should also look at the behaviors of our children and the kind of peers. However, if it is forcefully done, then parents should be punished for that and remains them their responsibilities
(leah at June 29, 2017 11:39 am)
Yes, because they block their children’s future
(Duncan (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 11:53 am)
sensitization is being done but again we are seeing this happening continuously so to me i think if punishments can help us to go away with early marriages.
(brenda(uganda) at June 29, 2017 11:59 am)
Punishing parents my not be enough for someone stubborn parents but I think they should learn how to wish the best for their own children if some of them were married off early then they should not encourage their children to do so because they have already tasted the bitter fruits of an early marriage
(Yamima (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:43 pm)
I don’t think parents should be punished with fines or imprisonment because punishment is not always a solution. I think there should be a law which prevents early marriages, however to change things parents should be helped to understand that if they love their children early marriages are not beneficial to them. It probably takes a long time to change a habit or cultural attitude, but I think governments and other institutions should start media campaigns which strongly discourage this practice. Perhaps things will change with time
(Beatrice at June 29, 2017 12:51 pm)
Yes they should be punished because children should have the right to decide what they want to do. but I’m not sure what the punishment should be. I would like to see more education so they didnt start. And supporting children to articulate their rights and empower them to express what they want and to knwo that they have choices.
(Morag (UK) at June 29, 2017 12:52 pm)
It depends on the age you are talking about and I appreciate it can seem a good option for some people. So punishment no – unless a very young child.
(Laura (UK) at June 29, 2017 12:55 pm)
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Oh my goodness! This is a complicated issue – I’ve shown up my ignorance as I’ve looked at all the responses. What does the law say? Do we think the law is right or do we need to campaign to change the law to raise the age of consent/marriage? If the law is right, do people keep the law? If not, perhaps they should be punished, but education and awareness must also be available. Perhaps a culture change is needed if the law is right but it doesn’t get obeyed – if so I think education and awareness would probably be more helpful than punishment. Is this more to do with equality and how women are viewed in society? I think we have a lot more work to do on that front, all round the world.
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Posted by Jo (UK) (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 29, 2017 1:06 pm
Parents must be punished since they have responsiblity to look after these children rather than abusing them
(Mike at June 29, 2017 1:11 pm)
Definitely education is important. Especially where #childmarriage is culturally ingrained. So many don’t realise the problem.
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 2:48 pm)
Sensitization about should be carried out and create awareness
(livebeatscrew at June 29, 2017 2:55 pm)
it’s not always parents wishes either. Cultural norms need to be addressed to outlaw #childmarriage completely.
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 2:56 pm)
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I am interested why you chose this question? Do children living on the streets in Uganda get pressured into early marriage a lot?
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Posted by Nicola (UK) (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 29, 2017 12:35 pm
I think girls on the streets do get forced into informal marriage and later dumped. They accept to go in for it because they want to survive the harsh situation on the streets.
(Sam Uganda at June 29, 2017 12:40 pm)
Some children live on the street because they fear being forced to be married.
(Abdui (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:43 pm)
I do not think it is a problem for boys, but forced early marriages are often a reason why girls leave home in the first place.
(john(uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:51 pm)
Running to the street is a way of avoiding a forced early marriage
(Nuhu(Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:57 pm)
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Can I be made clear? When do we say that this is early marriage? Is it only about age or age and readiness of the mind? Don’t you think that any forced marriage even though at an adult stage is a big problem. I think it is one of the reasons why people separate in marriage and they cause children to go to the streets
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Posted by Sam Uganda (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 29, 2017 12:34 pm
I think it is about your mind because if you have been thinking about marriage then you are more prepared for it.
(Nuhu(Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:49 pm)
I think it is about age, forced marriage is ok for adults if there is a small age gap.
(john(uganda) at June 29, 2017 1:01 pm)
I don’t think forced marriage is ever ok – no matter what your age is or how small the age gap is.
(Nicola (UK) at June 29, 2017 1:09 pm)
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Posted by SALVE (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 29, 2017 12:30 pm
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Do you think a punishment is the correct way of dealing with this or is this something that should be handled through social awareness and education? If they think there should be some sort of punishment or prosecution who is best places to investigate /administer this? Are there other avenues for changing social structures and opinions on early marriage?
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Posted by Euan (UK) (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 29, 2017 12:19 pm
Early marriage is not bad as long as the girl accepts no need of punishing the parents
(Shafik at June 29, 2017 12:21 pm)
I think social awareness needs to be on the centre stage in helping the parents to understand this. Punishment doesn’t help. Why should we punish someone for not knowing the effects of what they are doing?
(Sam Uganda at June 29, 2017 12:25 pm)
Because they are doing something wrong and need to learn that it is wrong.
(Abdui (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:28 pm)
I think that parents should be taught why forced child marriages are wrong because some parents are unaware of the consequences.
(john(uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:28 pm)
NO early marriage is not good because you will be killing childrens future.
(waiswa at June 29, 2017 12:32 pm)
I think that education is preferable to punishment as a prevention strategy. But if parents continue to do this there should be a prison sentence for them
(Helen UK at June 29, 2017 12:37 pm)
parents already know that it is wrong because there is often a marriage gap
(john(uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:40 pm)
I think ’punish’ is a harsh word. We need to explore the cultural context of the situation. Most of the parents most probably married at early age too, so its all they know and what was passed on through generations. Here in Morocco arranged marriages at an early age still happens but not as much as it used too. The social climate has changed as the country has modernised. Small towns and villages will always be the last to catch up. Here at the Moroccan Childrens Trust we have a women’s group at the centre, a place where women can voice their concerns and providing a platform of discussion. Its also an opportunity for us to talk to them about negative impacts that some cultural norms may have on the family life. I think this is a good way to at least start the discussions.
(adeel MCT Morocco at June 29, 2017 12:41 pm)
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the parent should not be punished because sometimes forced child marriages are a result of parents not having enough money to look after their children.
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Posted by john(uganda) (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 29, 2017 11:48 am
Yes they should be punished because they cause children to be traumatised and end up in bad conditions
(Duncan at June 29, 2017 11:51 am)
the parents should get a job if they do not have money.
(waiswa at June 29, 2017 11:55 am)
It is not all about money. The parents should think about love not money.
(john(uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:04 pm)
They should not be punished because some have information about the challenges to early marriages in other words poverty drives them
(Shafik at June 29, 2017 12:20 pm)
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Maybe we should be putting the punishment on the government and ploice for not enforcing the laws around early marriage? What do you think friends?
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Posted by Gerland (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 29, 2017 11:38 am
There are already laws enforced but parents need to be taught about these laws.
(john(uganda) at June 29, 2017 11:56 am)
It is the fault of the government who need be giving out more information about child marriage
(Abdui (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:33 pm)
It is the fault of the parents and not government because the parents choose to have the children and not government.
(Brian(Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:35 pm)
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We should educate parents and children about their rights. It should be choice and not forced.
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Posted by Musa (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 29, 2017 11:22 am
Parents need to understand they are the role models for the children and they cant act in this way and not get consequences of it
(Richard at June 29, 2017 11:32 am)
y“1x yes because the in-laws start to disrespect you
(Amiri(Uganda) at June 29, 2017 11:43 am)
I think when you educate someone they can understand what is good and what is bad
(waiswa at June 29, 2017 12:05 pm)
Some parents do not understand and should be educated but some feel like they do not have an option because of money.
(john(uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:19 pm)
In case a child is above 18years and the parents suggests marriage will that also be forced marriage ?
(Duncan at June 29, 2017 12:21 pm)
Its also worth noting that in America the age of consent is 16, but females 15–21 and males 17–21 can marry with parental consent alone.
(adeel MCT Morocco at June 29, 2017 12:48 pm)
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Does anyone know of cases where boys are pushed into early marriage? It would be good to compare with all the talk about the girls if so.
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Posted by Destiny (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 28, 2017 3:57 pm
Only if the boy has gotten the girl pregnant then they might make him marry by force. But then they might not have bride price. Its complicated for boys.
(Fred Uganda at June 29, 2017 7:39 am)
Early marriage is so much a girl issue rather than a boy issue I think
(Waswa at June 29, 2017 11:14 am)
I have never heard of a case of a boy being forced into early marriage because parents don’t get anything like bride price if their boys get married.
(Waiswa at June 29, 2017 11:32 am)
Actually Waiswa in some countries the boys get the bride price and in others its the girls. It is different all over the world
(Steve UK at June 29, 2017 11:36 am)
Boys are forced into early marriage by their parents in many villages
(Duncan at June 29, 2017 11:37 am)
i believe all have a right it is not only a girl there are boys too that are forced to get wives and even chased a way from home
(Henry(Uganda) at June 29, 2017 11:45 am)
Talk about. I have seen boys too being forced into early marriage. Thank you for this observation
(Sam Uganda at June 29, 2017 12:28 pm)
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As someone who thinks that marriage is a completely patriarchal, monotheistic, overcome and silly institution in the first place, I actually don’t think they should be punished but counter – brainwashed. That could be done via education but again, not the kind of education we make available now. The problem is that they think they do something good…
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Posted by Anonymous (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 8, 2017 10:25 am
While I might agree that marriage is outdated – I’m not sure I can agree with the idea of brain washing people as an answer. Instead why dont we encourage more people to ask questions and discover their own views?
(Debbie USA at June 9, 2017 2:51 pm)
As parents are punished, laws that set a minimum age of marriage are an important way to protect children from being married before they are ready as this is important that children are recognized in the law as being children and that they are accorded the full protection of the law. Governments also need to have clear and consistent law that establishes 18 years as the minimum age of marriage. Adequate protection must be in place to ensure that parental consent or other exceptions are NOT used to force children into marriage otherwise according to me parents who do this are breaking and spoiling the future and health of their children.
(Solomon(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 7:35 pm)
But what about a parent who forces a child who is 18 into marriage Solomon – is that still ok?
(Siad (Iran) at June 28, 2017 3:54 pm)
It is NEVER ok to force someone to marry or to be in a relationship. It should be done by choice at ALL ages.
(Daniel UK at June 29, 2017 7:34 am)
Important to consider causes of #childmarriage also. Can’t solve one problem without resolving its causes. Change thinking but what else?
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 11:37 am)
Yes, I agree law should protect childhood. #childlabour as well as #childmarriage. Whose definition of childhood though? Why 18?
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 11:45 am)
Is 18 adulthood due to physical and psychological development? Or is it an arbitrary culturally defined number?
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 11:45 am)
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Can we be clear here that we are talking about the girl child not the boy child. It’s rare to hear of the boy child going for early marriage. The fact the girl child is given out shows the parents lack of value in her so that is why I agree that yes parents need to be punished for not valuing their girl children.
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Posted by Winnie UG (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 1, 2017 8:12 am
What can be done to help parents value their girl children more? Then they wont want to give them out in Marriage
(Harry at June 9, 2017 2:59 pm)
A daughter is for life not for dowry. Our children are precious to us and should never be for sale
(destiny UK at June 16, 2017 2:41 pm)
No they should not be punished because of lack of financial support to take care of them
(Emma (uganda) at June 17, 2017 6:38 pm)
No they should not because some children get spoilt at a tender age like some girls get pregnant when at home and also run around with boys this forces their parents to send them into early marriage
(John (uganda) at June 17, 2017 6:41 pm)
John you seem to be blaming the girl for ”running around with boys”. What responsiblity does the boy have in this? Why is it just the girl at fault eh?
(Siad (Iran) at June 28, 2017 3:55 pm)
Early marriages limits the girls from getting pregnant so if they are married off it helps
(Mercy at June 29, 2017 11:55 am)
If a girl is married early, she is less likely to go to school and get an education. If she is not married early and gets an education, she will be more valuable to her family in the long term.
(waiswa at June 29, 2017 12:21 pm)
if at all the idea of parents asking for dowry can be removed would help as a way of girls being valued again and also stop early marriages as in most cases its all about parents gaining wealth from their children.
(brenda(uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:23 pm)
Parents should be encouraged to change their way of thinking rather than punished. This is a cultural problem, and as such it should be faced through prevention, based on cultural campaign and interactional support. Governments should campaing and implement centres and local organisation promoting support and respect for children’s rights to live their childhood and choose in a mindful way
(Claudio (Italy) at June 29, 2017 12:32 pm)
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Which punishment would you give the parent? Have they not already suffered losing their child to another family?
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Posted by Deborah Uganda (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 1, 2017 8:10 am
JAIL – I would put the parent in jail since making a girl marry young can be a jail for her and even death if she has a child too young
(Asha Uganda at June 16, 2017 2:44 pm)
Parents who force children into early marriage are the only ones to be arrested
(Haruna(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 6:45 pm)
It’s difficult – depends on the reason. If poverty is a driving factor then can we really punish that? Which problem needs solving 1st?
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 11:22 am)
We should listen to our parents as they have our best interests at heart. They wouldn’t choose a bad husband for their own child.
(Sarah at June 29, 2017 11:24 am)
I agree parents should be put in prison.
(waiswa at June 29, 2017 11:37 am)
The parents should not be punished because they force their child into early marriage because they don’t have money
(brian mauso (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 11:45 am)
They should not be punished because it helps to improve the standard of the family when they are given bride price
(John at June 29, 2017 11:54 am)
Parents should be cained before their children
(Hamida at June 29, 2017 11:55 am)
The parents should be caned because they cause children to be traumatised and end up killing themselves
(Abdui (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:03 pm)
John, I agree no punishment for people needing the basics of life but should #childmarriage still be stopped? Provide the basics for them?
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 12:06 pm)
No-one should be in such need that they must sell their daughters into #childmarriage. Surely this is the issue to solve?
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 12:06 pm)
If the parents are put into prison who feeds the children at home
(Asio(Rwanda) at June 29, 2017 12:33 pm)
i agree with you Hamida because at first its away of realizing pain then later can be arrested.
(shafik (uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:38 pm)
to me i send the parent to get married to the man she wants me to get married to and she feels how bad it is
(branner (uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:48 pm)
both parents of the victim and the man who wants to married the child should be arrested
(Amiri(Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:52 pm)
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Is it parents fault or povertys fault? For example if parents are poor and can’t afford to feed the child and someone offers marriage who would feed the child is it not bad for the parent to keep the child and keep them hungry?
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Posted by Amina Uganda (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 1, 2017 8:09 am
They should not be punished because if there is a rich man who is willing to give financial support in the family this will help so he will help the family
(Isaac(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 6:48 pm)
They should not be punishes because some parents dont have information on the effects of early marriages to their children
(Nuhu(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 6:55 pm)
Isaac, do you think that it is fair for a young girl to marry a older man (sometimes very much older) that she doesn’t love only because he can help her family? Shouldn’t she be able to marry someone that she is in love with?
(Irene at June 17, 2017 9:09 pm)
Yes, the girl can suffer and it’s not right. But if the family needs eg food to survive, can we punish them before providing food?
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 11:36 am)
I think if the child doesn’t want to get married, she should not be forced, even if the family get money for her if she doe get married.
(waiswa at June 29, 2017 11:39 am)
Completely agree. Definitely #childmarriage is wrong and should be stopped. But do you punish parents in addition to preventing marriage?
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 11:49 am)
They should keep them until they are old enough to be married, some people get HIV AIDS when they’re still young because they are forced into early marriage.
(Abdui (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:09 pm)
The parents are doing the wrong thing as early child marriage may result in more children
(Brian (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:12 pm)
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First you have to define what early is. In some cultures getting married at 18 is early and in other cultures getting married at 25 is early. In all cultures getting married at 12 is early. So culture has a big part to play in this question to help us to define what is early?
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Posted by Gerald UK (Questions: 0, Answers: 1852)
Answered on June 1, 2017 8:07 am
Is it ok to make someone marry at any age? Shouldn’t marriage be a choice thing?
(Siad (Iran) at June 28, 2017 3:56 pm)
Definitely some construct. Different countries/cultures define age of childhood differently.That must impact on definition of #earlymarriage
(Chaffinch at June 29, 2017 11:36 am)
I think that once a child is over 18 years it is ok to get married but they should never be forced at any age.w
(waiswa at June 29, 2017 11:48 am)
People should not get married until 25 because before then they are still growing up
(Abdui (Uganda) at June 29, 2017 12:18 pm)
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Posted by SALVE (Questions: 22, Answers: 10)
Answered on June 1, 2017 8:05 am
Parents should plan for their children’s as away of avoiding the punishments
(Henry(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 6:58 pm)
Parents should be punished because they have force their children into early marriages which has brought polygamy and producing many children in the name of getting pride price
(Branda(Uganda) at June 17, 2017 7:02 pm)
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